Frisky females: why masturbation should be a yes, yes, YES!

Check out this amazing article by Charlie featuring yours truly!

giving the elephant in the room a voice

Flicking your bean. Having a fiddle. ‘Me time’. Taking your fingers for a walk. Finger painting. The pink canoe…

This isn’t just a topic that Cosmopolitan like to cover – this is a real thing that women want to talk about, freely. Women are liberated and sexy and (shock horror) have urges too. It isn’t just men who lock themselves in rooms and have an ear pressed to the door in case someone comes home. Diamonds aren’t girls best friend anymore, her vibrator is.

Female fiddling seems to be a taboo subject – it may be 2017 but want to make a room fall silent? Ask a group of middle aged women how often take their ‘me time’ to the next level.  The inside-the-pants level. Watch them fall silent.

However, ask a bunch of twenty-something females after two cocktails and you better prepare for a whole a different answer:…

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Sassy single gal: the inside scoop

I’ve had a lot of conversations this week which has led me to this post. I enjoy writing about lighter topics like food and what I get up to but I think it’s important to write about issues/subjects that matter or I feel that encompass me.

There’s been a lot of talk on my social media this week about relationships and I’ve had to explain my lifestyle choices to people who don’t share my views/visions for their own life. Most would call me mad or cynical, I just see it as being smart and making informed choices about my life that are perhaps different to others. I don’t think I push my views on others or take every opportunity to slate relationships, tell people they’re stupid and doing life wrong, that’s not kl. But I will happily discuss it with anyone who wants to discuss it.

How did I arrive at this destination?

In a nutshell a lot of bad relationships (to say the least), poor judgement on my part & a lot of unhappiness. I have dated quite a few guys & girls and did it ever really bring me joy? No. It was complicated, painful, debilitating, pointless. Now I know what you’re thinking, that’s no reason to give up on  “love”, just because of a few “bad apples”. But it hasn’t been just a few apples… It’s mostly been rotten apples that are so far gone you would soon regret it if you decided to try one. I have seen all the evil that people do and have decided for my betterment and happiness that I deserve more. No limits or restrictions that are inherent of a human ball and chain. Never again will I choose someones else’s happiness over my own.

If you’re still reading this you’re probably thinking that I sound incredibly selfish and self-centered. Be that as it may, I’m a grown woman (26) and I have the power to make my own rules, as do you. I need to be selfish to ensure my own survival and to be as happy as my brain allows. Most people have probably had a relationship hiatus at some point in their lives and may recall how empowering and wonderful it is. I have also been on the other end of the spectrum where I felt lonely and couldn’t handle being on my own. (A much younger version of myself who I’m glad to see the back of). My independence and single status is now tied to my sanity and my ever devolving health.

Most people have probably had a relationship hiatus at some point in their lives and may recall how empowering and wonderful it is. I never have a second where I don’t feel that way. I have also been on the opposite side of the spectrum where I felt incredibly lonely and couldn’t handle being on my own. (A much younger version of myself who I’m glad to see the back of), but we evolve and change as we grow up. 

It brings me joy to be alone (in every sense of the word), with no one to answer to. I’ve had enough men trying to control me and bend me to their will over the years, I’m not content with that & I don’t want any part of it or any part of what society deems as normal. 

No relationships, no marriage, no kids, all that stuff is a dream I once had but no longer want. It literally was the case that I woke up one day 2 years ago and was like I don’t want that anymore, I had completely changed. Most people say it’s not permanent and that I will change my mind, but I won’t, and more importantly, I don’t want to. I enjoy my independence tremendously and I’m not interested in this fools errand of finding “the one” (if you believe in that kind of thing, which I DO NOT). My ideas may not look like yours or the average persons but it is my life and I do not take it or my choices for granted. We all do what we must to have some happiness in this world full of tragedy.

I hope this brought up some questions for you and made you think about your own life and happiness a bit more. Because in the end, we can only really rely on ourselves and that is the relationship we must work on and value above all others.

If you’re doing what you truly want to do and are happy though I cannot fault anyone for that. I hope those that are still searching for something that you find what you are looking for. 


My love for Violife

If you follow me on social media or read my blog you probably know that I love to cook and I’m obsessed with cheese. When I attended Just V Show recently I was lucky enough to score lots of great products to review. I was really interested to work with new companies as well as those that I’m already a big fan of. I don’t write about things and say I love them because I’m getting paid money to, I genuinely  love the products and want to share that with people. I try to stay on message and only work with companies/brands that fit with my likes/interests and that of my blog.

I’ve been a fan of Violife for a few years so will happily write about them and recommend them as I think their products are great. It was lovely to see them at Just V Show and they were incredibly generous with the haul of products they gave me. I’ve made various things with them so wanted to showcase what I’ve used them for so far, what ones are my favorites and why. Read More


My Easy & Healthy Banana Pancakes

I made these pancakes yesterday and had a lot of interest after I posted them so said I would put up the recipe. I love that they’re super simple so your kids can help you whip up a batch of these in the blender. I got 4 american style pancakes out of this so you can just double up the ingredients if you want to make more.

Vegan, GF, SF Banana Pancakes

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  • Time: 20 mins
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Super filling & delicious flourless pancakes. Perfect pre workout breakfast/brunch

*You don’t have to add the vanilla, cinnamon or seeds if you don’t want. I love them so I added them. 1 tsp of cinnamon makes them really cinnamony. I used white wine vinegar as didn’t have any apple cider.

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My MH – Chronic Depression

Ok so this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I briefly touched on this in my about me section but I wanna dig deeper with you all now. A lot of the stuff surrounding this I carry great shame about but I realized that I need to share this to help myself and most importantly to help others. My journey has been a lifelong one with many lows and some highs.. So ill start at the point where I was figuring this out.

“Something has been taken from deep inside of me
A secret I’ve kept locked away no one can ever see
Wounds so deep they never show, they never go away
Like moving pictures in my head, for years and years they’ve played” – LP

When I hit my teens I think for me that’s when it really began to show and to others as well. For my friends they just I dunno maybe ignored it and thought I was being dramatic and family thought I was just difficult I guess.. Read More


Giveaway!

Hey beauties. So I’ve been talking this weekend on my Instagram about a giveaway. As promised here is everything you need to know.

So the badass ladies at Drink TG have teamed up with me to offer you this AMAZING and really cute tea gift set. (3 pouches of tea bags, 3 bottles of iced tea & an infuser) Read More


The UK Loose Leaf Tea Company

The lovely people at the loose leaf tea company sent me some tea to try. They sent me 100g each of Rooibos Amaretto Prickly Pear Tea (rrp £4.30) & Hibiscus Blossoms Tea (rrp £3.68).

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They’re a small business based in London passionate about Tea, Coffee, Herbals, Drinking Chocolate. They source their teas direct from the ethical tea growers and approved suppliers, every product is of the highest quality, with many teas being organic. I love that they offer one of the largest selections of decaf loose leaf teas in the UK as I only really drink decaf.

I was excited to try these lovely sounding flavours as I adore tea and relish trying new brands & blends. They smelt so gorgeous in their packaging so was really excited to brew them. (The amaretto pear is particularly sweet smelling & dreamy) I love the packaging that they come in too, It clearly shows you what’s inside and showcases their teas beautifully. Read More